In the dictionary love is defined as an emotional feeling , passion , personal attachment. They say love is described as a feel good feeling. To me love is a choice not a feeling.
When you first meet a person the " emotion" you feel is from physical attraction then the word love is thrown in there as an umbrella statement. When you are told you will be having pizza for supper , you get excited because you like how it taste . Then the word love is thrown in there as an umbrella statement. When you are told you are going to a movie or a sports game you get those butterfly feelings in your stomach. You are feeling excited, happy . The the word love is used as an umbrella statement.
This how the word love is confused as a feeling. You are using this word when you " feel" an actual emotion and this is the first word thrown out there.
Look at relationships. When you first meet a person you get all excited from the physical infatuation you have for that person . After a while that goes away because you are use to seeing how that person looks. Then people break up saying they fell out of "love". People break up out of choice. People think that in order to stay in "love" you have to have that butterfly feeling all the time. If you truly care for a person you will choose to stay together.
If you stop getting excited about going to a movie or sports or eating you still choose to do all of the above because you enjoy it , it's something you like. Even if the last meal , movie, or sports game was boring and you was not excited after the events , you still keep doing them. Why? Because you choose to . Even after the excitement wears off if you want to keep doing them you choose to stay with it. Love has nothing to do with feelings, it's a choice.
So don't confuse love with a feeling, it's not a feeling it's a choice. So next time you are with that special someone don't say I love you, say " I choose you ". Because at some point that lust will disappear and you will confuse that with the so called loosely used word "love" as leaving.
When times get tough just tell yourself that you choose to make it work , that is if you really enjoy what you are doing.
My new blog sight . http://chadjohnsonsmindset.wordpress.com/
P.S. This is my opinion, others may think differently.
QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Education consists mainly in what we have unlearned. ( Mark Twain ).
When you first meet a person the " emotion" you feel is from physical attraction then the word love is thrown in there as an umbrella statement. When you are told you will be having pizza for supper , you get excited because you like how it taste . Then the word love is thrown in there as an umbrella statement. When you are told you are going to a movie or a sports game you get those butterfly feelings in your stomach. You are feeling excited, happy . The the word love is used as an umbrella statement.
This how the word love is confused as a feeling. You are using this word when you " feel" an actual emotion and this is the first word thrown out there.
Look at relationships. When you first meet a person you get all excited from the physical infatuation you have for that person . After a while that goes away because you are use to seeing how that person looks. Then people break up saying they fell out of "love". People break up out of choice. People think that in order to stay in "love" you have to have that butterfly feeling all the time. If you truly care for a person you will choose to stay together.
If you stop getting excited about going to a movie or sports or eating you still choose to do all of the above because you enjoy it , it's something you like. Even if the last meal , movie, or sports game was boring and you was not excited after the events , you still keep doing them. Why? Because you choose to . Even after the excitement wears off if you want to keep doing them you choose to stay with it. Love has nothing to do with feelings, it's a choice.
So don't confuse love with a feeling, it's not a feeling it's a choice. So next time you are with that special someone don't say I love you, say " I choose you ". Because at some point that lust will disappear and you will confuse that with the so called loosely used word "love" as leaving.
When times get tough just tell yourself that you choose to make it work , that is if you really enjoy what you are doing.
My new blog sight . http://chadjohnsonsmindset.wordpress.com/
P.S. This is my opinion, others may think differently.
QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Education consists mainly in what we have unlearned. ( Mark Twain ).
Yes, yes...i do agree with the idea of what you are saying yet disagree.... Love bares many faces and i believe that there are different measures of love.....because love is just not a matter of the heart.
ReplyDeleteI love horseback riding in a very different way then say my friendship with you. Tge excitement and freedom i FEEL when riding makes me absolutely love my hobby of doing so..... But in meeting you so many years ago online is a feeling of love based on many conversations, interests, anf support in which a friendship developed! I "choose" you to get to know you... and i don't know about you but the emotions of likeness has grown into a love for you.
The degree of that love is based on a distance between us because we have yet to see each other or spend that type of time together personally.
I believe the strength of love develops and grows as time is spent with an individual and it is euphoric and wonderful and feels great.
Even when things are not going well, you still can love that person. Its when things are a constant source if stress and pain is when one finds themselves not "loving" a person as they once did.
I also believe a person can kill a love that is in one's heart simply because who can love anyone who is mean, cruel, hurtful or abusive. Eventually, you will "fall out of love" or simply not love that person anymore !
Does that make sense? Now you add making love, hugs, kisses, compassion, affection, comunication, empathy, disagreements, making up, kids, support, laughter, smiles, and so many other factors that degree of love is certain to be heightened making the fallout of losing one you "love" that more detrimental and hurtful to your heart.....
So, guess what.... I genuinely love you based on what you said about saying " i choose you". (smile)
Thanks for opening this up, it will be interesting to get others involved and hear their ideas and opinions,
Geneva
I guess what I was getting at was you don't feel love. You feel all of the excitement at everything you do, and that's where people get confused and think love is a feeling. Excitement is a feeling and then it's labeled as love. To me that word is used to much in the "feeling' department. But that's my crazy way at looking at this word. Thank you again for reading my blogs . I hope to keep this up. It is fun.
ReplyDeleteI definitely feel where you're coming from.... Love is confused for alot of feelings versus actually being IN love with someone! Thanks for being so accepting of my thoughts and allowing me to express myself on your blog.... I look foward to your next thoughts and comments!
ReplyDeleteBlog Power!!! Hehe, smile
G